I’m a dancer. When I studied the Argentine Tango there was a foundational rule that I believe is true

Have you ever been absolutely certain you heard…

Many learning tools and programs provide tools for Influencers – coaches, sellers, negotiators, leaders managers, and consultants – to help Others make the changes they seek. NLP codes the Others’ internal processes to enable practitioners to understand the proposed problem and ‘get in’ to make the change. Coaching programs teach how to recognize what the client is ‘really’ saying and offer the best techniques to help. Negotiators seek the BATNA. But all tools have one thing in common: they assume that the Outsider can…

Most of you are really good at what you do: as influencers, sellers, coaches, change agents, or leaders, your intuition, excellent skills, and history of success guide your ability to facilitate change for your clients. And yet using conventional models and questions it’s inevitable that your interactions will have bias, and will unwittingly restrict possible outcomes accordingly. Since any bias you enter with will most likely skew the range of answers, the best option would be to enter each interaction with as

I’m regularly flummoxed when I hear people question climate change, or when folks actually believe that people of color are ‘different’ and worthy of being insulted, underpaid, ignored.

As a Buddhist, I don’t understand why anyone would want to take another’s…