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Get the Yes: Winning Funding, RFPs, and Grants
Monday, 15 Jun, 2015
Get the Yes:  Winning Funding, RFPs, and Grants

When we seek funding or respond to an RFP, our proposals meet the criteria requested, presenting well-positioned information to persuade the decision makers to choose us. But winners are chosen by some mysterious set of criteria not only unknown to us, but often unknown to them. I began thinking about this when a friend told me she was writing a grant proposal. With my systems-thinking brain I asked her:

Getting To Agreement
Monday, 12 Jan, 2015
Getting To Agreement

We all theoretically recognize that everyone has the right to their own beliefs. But in situations where we have great passion (or the moral high ground, as we would like to believe) we have difficulty being generous with those who disagree with us. Wouldn’t it be nice to persuade others to see the world as we see it?

What Should Coaches Be Listening For?
Sunday, 14 Dec, 2014
What Should Coaches Be Listening For?

A coach’s job is to facilitate potential change, usually by asking questions to identify the components of the problem and decide between solutions while reinforcing the changes and maintaining a trusting relationship. To achieve the excellence that all coaches seek, it’s necessary to avoid the listening filters that could prejudice the interaction, such as:

We Don’t Really Hear Each Other
Monday, 8 Dec, 2014
We Don’t Really Hear Each Other

We are not always able to accurately hear what others mean to convey. Sometimes we hear only a fraction of what’s been said and our brains misunderstand or bias the rest – and we might not realize it until it’s too late, causing us to believe we’re right and others are wrong, or moving to action using the wrong assumptions. We’re left with restricted communication and creativity,

Do You Hear Your Buyers?
Friday, 14 Nov, 2014
Do You Hear Your Buyers?

What we hear is not the objective of our communications: connecting is. As Senders, we speak as part of the communication process; as Receivers we hear as part of the communication process. But unless there is a completed cycle of Sender →  Receiver → Sender, and a connection occurs in which there is mutual understanding, […]