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The Arrogance of Listening
Monday, 16 May, 2016
The Arrogance of Listening

When researching my book on the gap between what’s said and what’s heard (What? Did you really say what I think I heard?) I discovered that most people..

The What of How: ‘Why’ and ‘What’ are inadequate to enable action
Monday, 25 Apr, 2016
The What of How: ‘Why’ and ‘What’ are inadequate to enable action

When you’re conversing with a prospect, a teenager, or a team member, how does your brain choose…

What Should Coaches, Managers, and Consultants Be Listening For?
Monday, 11 Jan, 2016
What Should Coaches, Managers, and Consultants Be Listening For?

A person who facilitates excellence in others facilitates potential change…

Why do we gather information from buyers?
Monday, 17 Aug, 2015
Why do we gather information from buyers?

Information, when used to influence or sell, has cost us untold loss in business and relationships. It actually causes resistance.

Can Collaboration Work?
Saturday, 27 Jun, 2015
Can Collaboration Work?

We enter into collaborations assuming we’ll succeed as teamwork partners. Yet we rarely achieve true partnership:
* Because we listen uniquely and through biased filters we sometimes mistakenly presume intent or misconstrue what’s been said and agreed upon. Problem: Flawed assumptions, wasted time and relationship capital, and restricted scope.
* There is often not enough diversity to enable maximum creativity and unrestricted solution options. Problem: Similar ideas and options constrain possibility and maintain the status quo.

What Should Coaches Be Listening For?
Sunday, 14 Dec, 2014
What Should Coaches Be Listening For?

A coach’s job is to facilitate potential change, usually by asking questions to identify the components of the problem and decide between solutions while reinforcing the changes and maintaining a trusting relationship. To achieve the excellence that all coaches seek, it’s necessary to avoid the listening filters that could prejudice the interaction, such as: