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How Listening Filters Cause Misunderstanding
Tuesday, 24 Apr, 2018
How Listening Filters Cause Misunderstanding

When researching my book on closing the gap between what’s said and what’s heard,

Our Listening Restricts Our Lives: understanding our listening filters
Monday, 25 Sep, 2017
Our Listening Restricts Our Lives: understanding our listening filters

At a neighborhood picnic recently, I introduced myself to five

The Arrogance of Listening
Monday, 16 May, 2016
The Arrogance of Listening

When researching my book on the gap between what’s said and what’s heard (What? Did you really say what I think I heard?) I discovered that most people..

What Should Coaches, Managers, and Consultants Be Listening For?
Monday, 11 Jan, 2016
What Should Coaches, Managers, and Consultants Be Listening For?

A person who facilitates excellence in others facilitates potential change…

Why Do We Listen To Each Other?
Monday, 28 Sep, 2015
Why Do We Listen To Each Other?

What if it were true that we only understand a fraction of what others say to us? And if true, what can we do about it?
As someone who has taken great pride in accurately hearing what others say, I was annoyed to discover that it’s pretty impossible for any listeners to achieve any consistent level of accuracy. The problem is not the words – we hear those, albeit we only remember them for less than 3 seconds and not in the proper order (Remember the game of Telephone we played as kids?). The problem is how we interpret them.

Can Collaboration Work?
Saturday, 27 Jun, 2015
Can Collaboration Work?

We enter into collaborations assuming we’ll succeed as teamwork partners. Yet we rarely achieve true partnership:
* Because we listen uniquely and through biased filters we sometimes mistakenly presume intent or misconstrue what’s been said and agreed upon. Problem: Flawed assumptions, wasted time and relationship capital, and restricted scope.
* There is often not enough diversity to enable maximum creativity and unrestricted solution options. Problem: Similar ideas and options constrain possibility and maintain the status quo.